Do you remember how a particular person treats you the first time he or she met you? I bet it is a huge different from how they treat you now. After getting to know what kind a person you are, people tend to change their attitude toward you. Do you remember how polite your best friends used to talk to you when they first met your? Just compare to how they do it now, and you will see the difference that you have never noticed before.
Time passes by, your friendship with your buddies are getting tighter and you start to feel free to talk about any topic to them. They also begin to know about your strengths and your weaknesses. When encounter troubles, they might ask for your help because they know exactly about your capability. At this point, you may think that they are taking advantages from you. Well, to some extent, it is. However, if you look at it from another position, this is what a friend should do. Friends help each other, don't they? Correct me if I am wrong about this. Later on, you may realize that they are not who you thought they are. Then you thought to yourself: "He/she has changed!" Oh no. You are wrong. This is because they began to show you the real selves of them -- their ugly sides. Selfish, stingy, nosy, bossy, discourage... There are so many negative personalities in them. It is just that they did not reveal those things to you at the first place. You acknowledged all these by your own in the times you have spent with them.
By any random chance, you have fallen in love with a guy(I am a girl, so I am writing from a girl's perspective.) you just met. Not long after that, two of you have had many precious memories with each other. However, have you ever notice his actions and words are changing gradually. I am not saying that he has a change of heart, on the other hand, he starts to treat you differently. When you first started to date, your boyfriend is very sweet. He would notice all the details, dress properly, take times to decide a good place to go. Yet after 1 or 2 months, he would be very easy-going when dating. He may not care so much about those small things. The first 1 or 2 weeks, he would stick with you no matter where you are. If you are at home, he will text you or reach you through any means. But then, he may say he needs his own space. For example, before he would walk you home rather than just say goodbye to you at the corner to his house like what he does now. From my opinion, he is starting to treat you like his family. He cares about you but not that much because he knows you well enough now. He doesn't have to do everything for you because he understands that you are independent. You are not a baby who needs people to look after every second. What he did at the beginning of your relationship is just to try to get your attention and show you how much he cares.
At the age of 5, your parents decided everything for you. As parents, they tried to give you the best they can.
To you, they are your world. You knew only what they had taught you. They are the center of your life at that time. Later on, you had become a teenager. There were so many for you to explore out there, so you need more freedom. Nevertheless, you parents banned you from all those things because they think that those are dangerous for you. But you thought you were strong enough to face those. Then you started to hate them, blame them for keeping you away from what you desire. After that, you started to remember their advice and understand it little by little. Until you are an adult, you still can rely on their words to you. This is the way you treat your parents differently.
After you know people well, you start to change the way you getting along with them. So don't say that people change, you are changing too.
By any random chance, you have fallen in love with a guy(I am a girl, so I am writing from a girl's perspective.) you just met. Not long after that, two of you have had many precious memories with each other. However, have you ever notice his actions and words are changing gradually. I am not saying that he has a change of heart, on the other hand, he starts to treat you differently. When you first started to date, your boyfriend is very sweet. He would notice all the details, dress properly, take times to decide a good place to go. Yet after 1 or 2 months, he would be very easy-going when dating. He may not care so much about those small things. The first 1 or 2 weeks, he would stick with you no matter where you are. If you are at home, he will text you or reach you through any means. But then, he may say he needs his own space. For example, before he would walk you home rather than just say goodbye to you at the corner to his house like what he does now. From my opinion, he is starting to treat you like his family. He cares about you but not that much because he knows you well enough now. He doesn't have to do everything for you because he understands that you are independent. You are not a baby who needs people to look after every second. What he did at the beginning of your relationship is just to try to get your attention and show you how much he cares.
At the age of 5, your parents decided everything for you. As parents, they tried to give you the best they can.
To you, they are your world. You knew only what they had taught you. They are the center of your life at that time. Later on, you had become a teenager. There were so many for you to explore out there, so you need more freedom. Nevertheless, you parents banned you from all those things because they think that those are dangerous for you. But you thought you were strong enough to face those. Then you started to hate them, blame them for keeping you away from what you desire. After that, you started to remember their advice and understand it little by little. Until you are an adult, you still can rely on their words to you. This is the way you treat your parents differently.
After you know people well, you start to change the way you getting along with them. So don't say that people change, you are changing too.
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